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Let's Fall in Love

Okeh. This is the hardest post ever.
The idea itself was THERE, in this tiny little brain, since last Friday night.
But to actually write it means I need to be totally honest with myself.
And, of course, is never easy to come clean.
Basically, uda ada 3 draft gw simpen buat post ini.
Tapi ga satu pun gw rasa pantes buat di post.
All seems.. too shallow and lacking of emotion (behh).
Ok so here goes.


Pernah denger 'The 5 Love Languages'?
Jadi intinya ada tipe 5 bahasa cinta (jelek bgt kl ditranslate) yang bisa mempengaruhi kamu.
Words of affirmation, act of service, receiving gifts, quality time, physical touch.
Each one of us will have different language.
Nih, you can take the test here.

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

Quite interesting sih menurut gw.
You get to know HOW you are affected the most.
Lumayan bermanfaat, gw jadi nyadar kalo we can't expect 'treat people how you want to be treated' itu 100% manjur.
Ya.. Karena emang tiap orang punya love language yg beda2.
Jadi kalo misalnya nih kita begadang malem2 demi bikinin orang sesuatu, tp ternyata orangnya cuman 'Oh.. Kay. Thanks', gausah tersinggung, bukan berarti bikinan kita jelek.
Mungkin emang dia love language-nya itu quality time, bukan receiving gift.
Ga curcol loh ini... Cuman contoh.

Anyway, gw jadi berpikir.
Apakah karena kita punya love language yg beda2, jadinya HOW we fall in love (ehmm) juga beda?
Kemarin kan saya dan teman2 (yg mungkin tdk mau disebut namanya) discussing, how did they fall in love.

Ada yang bilang, fall in love krn dipedekatein. Susah ya nulisnya.
Jadi dia ktnya baru bisa suka kalo dideketin.
Yah, namanya orang pdkt kan manis2 banget gitu ya.
Apa jg dijabanin, meski di ujung samudra, berat di ongkos, musti begadang menahan kantuk, etc.
Apa tuh katanya? All's fair in love and war?

Ada jg yang bilang, fall in love krn orangnya baik.
Baik, dewasa, setia, selalu menemani jd ga pernah sendirian.
Yah bs jd ini semua di atas krn lg pedekate sih.
Masa2 promosi gitu. Jadinya baik.
Tp bisa juga ga. Bs juga pada dasarnya orangnya baik, dewasa, setia, dll.

Personally, (wkwkwkw) kalo gw sih musti kenal dulu sm orangnya.
I think as I grow older, quality become more crucial as appearance becoming more insignificant.
Gitu deh. Gausah dielaborate deh ya. Elaboration upon request. LOL.


Anyway.
Ada 1 pertanyaan yg gw tangkep dimana2 :
If people could fall IN love, then isn't it natural to fall OUT of it?

Nah.

Menurut sepasang married couple (yg mungkin tdk mau disebut namanya),
yang namanya bosen itu adalah lumrah. Common.
Namanya jg manusia. Gw aja pernah bosen makan nasi.
Ga kebayang kan? Tp pernah.
Then how to bring the excitement back?
Menurut pasangan tersebut, mereka bakal cari waktu buat ngedate.
Cari waktu to get to know her/him, and you'll get to be reminded, with whom you're fall in love the first place. Reminded on what's in him/her that makes you 'fall' and put that sparkle (sssparklee) in your eyes.
Jangan biarkan kupu2 di perutmu (butterfly in your stomach) itu kembali ke kepompongnya, nak!

So how's your love life?
More importantly, how's your relationship with Jesus?
Apa kamu cuman tau2 by name? Pernah denger2?
Cuman kenal2 dikit?
Cuman pernah say 'Hi. Hello' beberapa kali?
Apa udah smpe tahap 'This is the air I breathe'?


Kalo orang bisa salah paham krn love language yg beda2, in this case, NO WORRIES!
Because He speaks all kind of languages.
Gimana pun cara lo express cinta lo, Dia ga bakal salah ngerti deh.
Even before you DO it, He knows that you do it (whatever it is you do) out of love for Him.
Kemungkinan sih kita yg salah paham, bukan Dia.

Kalo ngomong fall IN, maka ada fall OUT.
Nah yg ini jg cuman applied ke kita sih, since He never fall OUT of His love from us.
Ya karena He IS love.
I don't deserve it. I don't even know how to love until He shows me.
Gw sering mistakenly ngerasa I am able to love.
Tapi liat orangnya foto2 sm cw lain aja lgs sebel. Lgs emosian. Lgs nyanyi lagu Glenn Fredly. LOL.
Nah ini baru curcol.
Just saying kalo human love itu super imperfect, super selfish, dan maunya KITA yg jadi centrenya.
We love because we want others to love us back.
I'm just being honest.
Kl gw jadi cowo pedekate sm cw berkali2, ditolak berkali2 (sekali aja mungkin udah gedek. Tapi ini mungkin agak 'berkemauan keras' alias ngotot), well, gw pasti mundur jg.
Then I'll be looking for someone else yg bisa bales perasaan gw.
I'm just thankful that He is not like that at all.
He even do the opposite.
He loves us, even when we keep rejecting and refusing and dismissing Him.
He keeps giving, even when we take everything we have for granted, bahkan ngaku2 kalo semua yg Dia bikin dlm hidup kita itu adalah because WE are able.
He patiently hold our hands, waktu kita nangis2 pas ada masalah, guide us till the end, even when we let go waktu semuanya enak dan santai.

Then, let's say, you admit that you ONCE were in love with God, but..
Not anymore.
You can't feel the spark. You can't feel Him.
You start to question if He really, really there, and if He really cares.

Well, you might want to try the'dating' approach.
Maybe you fall out of love because you can't remember WHY you fall in love the first place.
Or you are too busy with your daily routine, or new hobbies, or other stuff.
If you have that desire.
To feel that abundant love that overflow from the inside out again,
simply spend more time with Him.
Remind yourself, apa yg bikin lo dulu fall for Him.
Kl lo segitu super pelupanya, you just ask for Him to make you fall in love once again.
Yang penting, are you willing to? Do you want to fall in love with Him again?
Just remember that He is the same, yesterday, now, and forever more.
And unlike ours, His love never fades.

One thing yg gw observe dari diri gw sndiri :
It's not that He doesn't give me the love that I need. He does.
It's just when I don't walk along with Him, I shift my focus someplace else.
To my routines, to my chores, to my friends, to my works, to my problems and challenges, to other stuff that pleases me.
Ibarat kaya lo focus main Candy Crush sambil nunggu bis.
Dalam hati lo bertanya2, kok bis ga datang2.
Padahal udah lewat 3 bis, lo aja yg nunduk terus.

Buat penutup, ini ada sedikit slogan :

Jika Anda lagi ulangan dan ga tau jawabannya, jawab aja CINTA.
Karena CINTA ga pernah salah.


LOL. Sorry, gw lg demen aja itu quote konyol.
Because it is true.
Love never fails. God is love. So God never fails ;)




Night peeps.
Let's fall in Love.

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